"First comes love, then comes marriage . . . ."
Nursery rhymes and fairy tales are not made to prepare us for "happily ever after." After the honeymoon passes, real life begins. And real life is hard.
Perhaps you receive a job offer out-of-state. It's your dream job, but relocating would mean leaving your mother-in-law in a nursing home without family support.
It's the ellipses of life that none of us are prepared for.
Maybe there isn't just one big thing that causes marital unhappiness. Instead, it's balancing all the day-to-day challenges of marriage and parenting that feel overwhelming and, over time, can lead to feelings of discontent, exhaustion, and isolation.